Having Both Depression And Anxiety

Having Both Depression And Anxiety

by | Nov 29, 2015 | Blog

Originally posted on Buzz Feed by Anna Borges

Caring both too much and not at all means never winning.

[Editor’s note: Anxiety and depression affect everyone differently — but dealing with both is extremely common. Nearly one-half of people diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Anxiety and depression are deeply personal, and although this list represents only one experience, we hope you find some solace in knowing others might be going through what you are.]
1. It’s freaking out at the idea of getting anything less than a stellar score on a test, but not having the energy to study.

2. It’s having to stay in bed because you don’t have the will to move, but unraveling at the thought of what will happen if you miss school or work.

3. It’s feeling more tired the less you move, but your heart racing at the thought of taking the first step.

4. It’s getting more tightly wound the more mess piles up, but only staring at it and thinking, I’ll clean tomorrow.

5. It’s making six million to-do lists just to untangle your thoughts, but knowing you’ll never actually cross anything off.

6. It’s believing that every canceled plan will end your friendships, but not having it in you to follow through.

7. It’s feeling hopelessly low that you’re still goddamn single, but canceling every first date because the thought of going through with it gives you heart palpitations.

8. It’s fearing every day that your partner will get fed up and leave, but your anxiety whispering in your ear that they deserve better and should.

9. It’s ignoring texts and turning down invitations, and it’s aching when the texts and invitations stop.

10. It’s the constant fear of winding up alone, but accidentally isolating yourself because you sometimes just need to hide from it all.

11. It’s wanting nothing more than to crawl home and sleep at 2 p.m., but your skittering, panicked pulse keeping you awake at 2 a.m.

12. It’s alternating between feeling paralyzed in the present and scared shitless about the future.

13. It’s not enjoying the good days because you’re too gripped by the anxiety that the next low is around the corner.

14. It’s sleeping too much or not at all.

15. It’s needing a break from your racing thoughts, but not being able to climb out of the pit of yourself.

16. It’s needing to do everything, but wanting to do nothing at all.

17. It’s coping mechanisms and escapism, because when you’re not trying to hide from one part of your brain, you’re hiding from the other.

18. It’s wondering if the things that are making your heart feel heavy are things your anxious mind just made up.

19. It’s sitting awake at 3 a.m. worrying about a future you’re not even sure you want to have.

20. It’s feeling too much and nothing at all at the same time, which means feeling like you can never win.

BUT YOU CAN. AND YOU WILL. YOU’RE NOT ALONE.

To learn more about depression and anxiety, check out the resources at the National Institute of Mental Health here and here.

If you are dealing with thoughts of suicide, you can speak to someone immediately here or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which you can reach at 1-800-273-8255.

Hypnosis Is The Best Thing

Hypnosis Is The Best Thing

by | Nov 25, 2015 | Blog

originally posted by Kelsey Miller, Refinery29.com
Everyone gets stuck sometimes. I regularly get emails from people who feel as though they’ve hit a wall, whether it’s in the intuitive eating process, in eating disorder recovery, or just in attempting to change their food and fitness behaviors. Because I get stuck all the time myself, I’ve learned that there’s a common-denominator issue underneath all these other issues: body acceptance. Yes, there are myriad triggers and causes behind our individual histories, but the bottom line is that, unless you can find a way to accept (even if you don’t like) your body, it is virtually impossible to change the way you feed and move it. So, when I get stuck, I know the way out begins with rolling up my sleeves and jump-starting the ol’ body-image engine.
This fall, finding myself in need of a good jump-start, I decided to try something new and slightly scary: hypnotherapy.
Hypnosis has been dogged by controversy and myths ever since 18th-century doctor Franz Mesmer first began using it to treat patients (first in private, then on stage). But the truth is that the hypnotic state is totally natural and requires no trickery. You know that almost-asleep phase you hit right before nodding off? Or when you find yourself driving down the highway on autopilot? That’s it. In this state, your mind is at its most suggestible, but you’re in no way unconscious. The magic of hypnosis is that it allows suggestions to cross the barrier between conscious and sub-conscious, rooting them deeply into your mind.
“Essentially, hypnosis works by shifting negative beliefs about ourselves at the subconscious level,” says Theresa Walker, C.Ht., the hypnotherapist I began working with in September. Because it’s such a powerful tool for changing behavior and thought patterns, hypnotherapy is often used for things like quitting smoking, managing anxiety and compulsions, improving concentration, etc. Walker is particularly invested in body image work, since changing self-perception is such an enormous challenge for so many people.
“What I’ve learned is that it’s usually a call for a strengthening of self-worth,” she says. “I always start by becoming clear on what my client’s definition of improved body image and self-acceptance would mean for them, because it’s different for everyone.” Then, once Walker and a client have clearly defined their goals, Walker introduces those ideas during hypnosis, planting them in the fertile ground of subconsciousness. “The change starts first within the mind,” concludes Walker, “and ultimately manifests in conscious, awake life.”
That’s my kind of magic.
I did my first session with Walker in her Los Angeles office, where she walked me through a series of suggestibility tests — noting that, while everyone can be hypnotized, we all have different ways of taking in information. The fact that she made hypnosis sound not unlike those “learning style” tests from elementary school was oddly comforting. (I’d been looking forward to this for weeks, but upon entering this cozy, quiet room, I found myself suddenly nervous.)
Next, we got into goals.
“Um, body image,” I said. “Like, a better one.”
I now realize how absurd my expectations were, but I kind of thought Walker would just have the magic words to address my personal sense of self-perception and reinforce my specific body-image goals. But though she is highly trained and experienced, she couldn’t literally pop open my mind and look around. I’d have to actually do some of the work. A lot, in fact.
IT FORCES YOU TO GET SPECIFIC ABOUT THE ISSUE YOU WANT TO ADDRESS AND REALLY ENVISION WHAT SUCCESS WOULD LOOK LIKE.
This is what’s so great (and so annoying) about hypnotherapy — about all therapy, but much more so in this particular process. It forces you to get specific about the issue you want to address and really envision what success would look like. I started by launching into my general history, but with each query, Walker led me deeper into the details. What is it I don’t like about my body — or that specific body part? What is it about my stomach I don’t like? When and how do I criticize my stomach? What does that critical voice say? Whose voice does it sound like? How would I like to feel about my stomach? No really, what are the words?
It took forever.
Once we’d mapped out my suggestibility, overall goals, and specifics to focus on in that first session, Walker eased me into hypnosis. I quickly understood what Walker had meant when she described hypnotherapy as “a permission-given” therapy. “The truth is, when you are in hypnosis, you’re in control the entire time. You will never do or say anything you don’t want to,” says Walker. “Everyone has the ability to be hypnotized — but it is a willing state. You have to allow it.”
I was still nervous, but having talked to Walker for over an hour, I felt comfortable enough to allow myself to ease into that not-quite-sleeping state of relaxation, guided by her voice and instructions. It was both strange and totally comfortable, like being in a deep dream state, yet simultaneously aware that you’re sitting in a chair, in an office, on a Tuesday afternoon.
The session began with a simple visualization of walking down a path in a peaceful environment (the details of which Walker directed me to select to suit my preference). She wove in the language and intentions we’d discussed, anchoring them in symbolic visuals and actions for me to take within the scene. There were bonfires into which I threw old, unnecessary behaviors, and a glass full of liquid self-assurance or something. As with a dream, it was difficult to recall the details after I “woke up.” But the feeling of calm and clarity resonated in me for days.
FUNNY THAT DIVING SO DEEP INTO MY OWN HEAD IS WHAT HELPED ME GET OUT OF IT.
Have you ever said something to yourself aloud, just before sleep, in an effort to remember it in the morning? I do that trick sometimes, saying, “laptop” or “phone charger” to myself, and, upon waking, the thought pops up instantly, as if I’d left it on my bedside table. That’s what it was like after my first hypnotherapy session, and each of the sessions that followed.
Looking in the mirror, I’d think, Oh right, I accept and appreciate myself, just as I am in this moment. It wasn’t as if I had instant, totally positive body image after one session (or even after six). But the habits and thought patterns I consciously strived to ingrain in my mind were made more accessible. Though these moments of self-acceptance weren’t totally automatic, all of a sudden they weren’t as much of a stretch, either.
I did the rest of my sessions with Walker back in New York, via Skype. I was surprised to find that falling into hypnosis was even easier via this medium, perhaps because I could do it while in the comfort of my own home (and sweatpants). What was not surprising was just how many other subjects arose during our sessions. After all, body image is interlocked with so many other personal issues: stress, relationships, childhood, parents. When one of those emotional minefields got tweaked, I could immediately see the aftershocks rippling through my perception of my body. And with each hypnotherapy session, Walker helped me to take a closer look at all those areas, too. But no matter what we worked on, I always left a session feeling more clear and grounded in myself. Funny that diving so deep into my own head is what helped me get out of it.
It was as if my mental path had been swept clean of those needless, nagging thoughts and patterns I kept getting stuck on. Each time I came out of hypnosis, I found that I could move more easily and see where I needed to go.
Hypnotherapy isn’t a spell that makes everything better with a few magic words. It’s a process that teaches you to find your own magic words — and remember them. It’s not a party trick; no one’s going to make you run around barking and acting like a dog. If anything, hypnotherapy is a tool that lets you be yourself, achieve your goals, and free yourself from all the old nonsense that’s keeping you stuck.
Maybe it sounds like a shortcut — and maybe it is. But, really, what’s so wrong with a shortcut when you know exactly where it is you want to go?

A Common Mistake that Makes Your Anxiety Worse

A Common Mistake that Makes Your Anxiety Worse

by | Nov 4, 2015 | Blog

originally posted by Hervé Boisdé, CMS-CHt, FIBH, Brooklyn Hypnosis
Many people make mistakes with their anxiety. In fact, one of the problems with anxiety is that anxiety itself can make mistakes more likely – because anxiety changes thought processes and feelings in a way that can lead to you to making decisions that are counterproductive for curing anxiety.
Alcohol abuse is a great example. People turn to alcohol to reduce anxiety because it can dull anxiety away, but in reality it actually makes anxiety worse because it replaces your mind’s ability to cope with stress. But that is an extreme example. There is actually a single, common mistake that nearly everyone makes that causes anxiety to be worse.
THE MOST COMMON ANXIETY MISTAKES
There are so many mistakes that people make with their anxiety. Many people with panic disorder drink lots of coffee, for example, and coffee can make panic attacks worse. Others try to breathe in more when they’re hyperventilating (because hyperventilation makes you feel as though you’re not getting a full breath) but that actually makes hyperventilation worse.
But by far the most common mistake that people make with anxiety is moping. In this case, moping is the idea that you need to “be alone.” The idea that you need to go home after a tough day at work and just sit and think so that your stress and anxiety get better.
THE PROBLEMS WITH MOPING
Moping – or some form of moping – is incredibly common. Feeling like you need to sit and do nothing to feel better is a function of anxiety. Anxiety completely drains the body. It makes it hard to want to do much of anything. You feel like you want to be alone, and that you want to go home and “veg out” until you feel better.
Unfortunately, this is a common mistake that has the potential to make your anxiety much worse. Ideally, you need to stay active. You need to be surrounded with friends and try your best to get out there, exercise, and have new experiences. Avoiding those experiences because you want to cope with your anxiety alone causes several issues that make anxiety worse:
Inactivity Easily the biggest problem is inactivity. Exercise and staying physically active and moving are extremely important for not only physical health, but mental health as well. Movement and exercise improve hormone function and neurotransmitter production, and drain the body of excess energy that would otherwise cause the mind and body to become more stressed. Moving and staying active in general is crucial to anxiety management, and inactivity from moping makes that much more difficult.
Uncontrolled Thoughts Anxiety changes the way you think, and unfortunately that often means that your own thoughts are your worst enemy. Many people don’t realize that anxiety and anxiety attacks are often caused by letting yourself sit and think, because the mind eventually starts thinking about negative things. Staying active gives your mind distractions, and distractions provide you with a mental break that can reduce future anxiety symptoms.
“Giving In” There is a behavioral reason to avoid moping too. Namely, it essentially lets your anxiety win and controls the way that you react in the future. If you often keep to yourself when you have anxiety, then every time you have significant anxiety your body’s reaction is to want to you give in again. It becomes your coping mechanism, and makes it harder to stop moping in the future.
Social Need Being around people that you like and make you happy is an important tool for combatting anxiety. Obviously those with social anxiety disorder are at a bit of a disadvantage here, but in general if you can spend time with people and talk to others, you’re more likely to find life more enjoyable, and the more you enjoy life the easier it will be to treat your anxiety.
Happy Memories Finally, anxiety itself makes you focus too much on the present. One of the strategies to help reduce anxiety is goal setting, specifically because it gives you something to look forward to in the future. Staying active with enjoyable activities provides hope, and hope is important for committing to anxiety treatments.
How you react to anxiety does matter. It can be hard to control, but it matters. Those that push themselves through and try to stay active and distract their mind from these negative thoughts aren’t going to cure their anxiety, because anxiety isn’t that simple to solve. But they may find that when they finally commit to an anxiety treatment, they’re more likely to see the results, because they’ve put themselves in a position where their anxiety isn’t able to control them.
Moping behaviors are not the only mistake people make with anxiety, and it may not even be the worst. But it is an extremely common reaction to anxiety and stress and one that needs to be stopped in order to continue to control anxiety.
OTHER ANXIETY MISTAKES
Anxiety mistakes occur nearly every day. It can be hard enough to control anxiety even with the most effective treatment, so when mistakes occur it can really make it challenging to reduce your anxiety – especially without any help. Examples of other common anxiety mistakes include:
Listening to negative/moping music, rather than upbeat and happy music.
Purposely subjecting yourself to anxious and stressful situations, like horror movies.
Spending time with those that are generally negative.
Taking medications without combining them with a long term treatment.
Quitting an anxiety reduction strategy when it doesn’t work right away.
The list of anxiety mistakes is incredibly long, because anxiety causes people to focus on far too many negative feelings and emotions that get in the way of better decision making.
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Hypnosis-Myths and Misconceptions-4

by | Oct 21, 2015 | About Hypnosis, Blog

Myths and Misconceptions about Hypnosis

If you read my post “What is Hypnosis”, you probably concluded that hypnosis has been widely misunderstood. Most people’s perceptions of hypnosis come from the entertainment industry, particularly the media and Hollywood. Below are common myths and misconceptions about hypnosis.

Myth #1: A hypnotist is a person gifted with unique, mystical, or unusual powers.

Fact: A hypnotist is an ordinary person without unusual or mystical powers. A well-trained hypnotist understands that individuals hypnotize themselves. The hypnotist delivers suggestions effectively to facilitate an altered state of mind and teaches clients to self-induce the hypnotic state. Hypnotherapists come from all walks of life, with no special traits, typically driven by a desire to help others.

Myth #2: A person may not be easily awakened and may remain in the hypnotic state for a long time or get “stuck” in this state.

Fact: No one has ever remained indefinitely in a hypnotic state. The state can be terminated at will, as simply as opening your eyes. You cannot get stuck in hypnosis or fail to “wake up.” You do not lose consciousness or fall asleep. Hypnosis induces deep relaxation, but you remain fully in control. It involves enhanced communication between the conscious and subconscious mind. During hypnosis, you actively participate and may even direct the session. You enter hypnosis voluntarily and can exit it at any time.

Myth #3: Hypnosis effects a cure in just one or two sessions.

Fact: In some cases, one or two hypnosis sessions may help a person break a habit. However, most cases require several sessions to achieve a favorable result. Hypnosis is not a panacea; it cannot cure all human problems or do so instantly.

Myth #4: Many people cannot be hypnotized.

Fact: Approximately 90% of people can be hypnotized. Studies show that higher intelligence often correlates with a greater likelihood of entering a hypnotic state. If you believe, “I cannot be hypnotized,” you may be reinforcing that belief, as your own suggestion can block attempts to enter hypnosis.

Myth #5: Only the gullible or weak-minded can be hypnotized.

Fact: Hypnosis is not suitable for individuals with limited cognitive abilities. It requires imagination, cooperation, and a willingness to accept suggestions. More intelligent and imaginative individuals are often easier to hypnotize. While gullible people may be easily deceived, creativity and intelligence facilitate hypnosis, not gullibility. Conversely, highly analytical or controlling individuals may find hypnosis more challenging to achieve. The best candidates are those with a clear reason or motivation for wanting to be hypnotized.

Myth #6: When in hypnosis, you are out of control.

Fact: You cannot be hypnotized against your will; you must want to be hypnotized for it to occur. Successful hypnosis requires the following:

  1. A desire to be hypnotized.
  2. Confidence in the hypnotist.
  3. Willingness to accept suggestions.
  4. Freedom from fear.
  5. Freedom from the need to control.

As hypnotist Dave Elman stated, “Remove fear, the biggest block of all, and you’ll be able to hypnotize one hundred people out of a hundred.” The notion that you lose control of your senses or memories is a myth perpetuated by Hollywood to sell movies.

Myth #7: Hypnosis involves a surrender of one’s will to the hypnotist, where a “stronger soul” has power over a “weaker soul,” or allows the hypnotist to control the subject to do or say anything, including committing crimes or acting against their moral principles.

Fact: A hypnotist does not have power over the client. In hypnosis, a person will not act against their moral principles or commit antisocial or illegal acts. They retain the ability to accept or reject suggestions, dismissing any that are improper. Hypnosis involves heightened awareness, connecting the conscious and subconscious mind simultaneously, and the client remains fully conscious, never “unconscious.” This dual nature of the mind ensures the client’s autonomy. Suggestions, including posthypnotic ones, cannot override a person’s moral principles. Modern hypnotherapy uses the term “in hypnosis” to describe the hypnotic state, avoiding phrases like “under hypnosis” or “down into hypnosis,” which falsely imply the hypnotist’s dominance. In this approach, the hypnotist and client are equals, with the hypnotist acting as a facilitator, not a controller. Clients resolve their issues using their inner resources, primarily from the subconscious.

Myth #8: Hypnosis is a sleep-like, unconscious state in which a person is unaware of their surroundings.

Fact: Hypnosis involves heightened awareness, not sleep or unconsciousness. When in hypnosis, you are fully aware of your surroundings and everything being said to you. While it may resemble sleep, hypnosis is a state of expanded awareness, allowing you to reject any suggestion at any time. Your ego remains present, ensuring you never act against your ethical principles. In the hypnotic state, your senses are enhanced (hyper-acuity), making you more, not less, aware of sounds and activities around you. As one hypnotist put it, “I am not here to put people to sleep; I am here to assist in waking them up.”

Myth #9: A person must be deeply hypnotized to benefit from it.

Fact: You do not need to be in a deep state of hypnosis to experience its benefits. Positive results can be achieved by accepting suggestions during a light trance.

Myth #10: Hypnosis is unnatural or supernatural.

Fact: Hypnosis is a natural, altered state of mind that offers numerous benefits.

Myth #11: Hypnosis is merely relaxation and nothing more.

Fact: Hypnosis is distinct from relaxation. You can be relaxed without being hypnotized, and you can be hypnotized without being relaxed. Relaxation is just one aspect of certain trance states. Everyone experiences hypnosis differently. If you are very tired, particularly when practicing self-hypnosis before bedtime, you may fall asleep.

Myth #12: Hypnosis is catalepsy, and a person cannot move in that state.

Fact: Catalepsy, a medical condition involving trance-like states, loss of sensation, and bodily rigidity, is distinct from hypnosis. It can occur with or without a trance and is not hypnosis itself. The so-called “hypnotic coma” is not an unconscious or cataleptic state but a state of profound relaxation in which a person may choose not to move, think, or speak. They remain fully conscious and can end this state at any time.

Myth #13: The eyes must be closed for hypnosis to occur.

Fact: Closing the eyes is not a prerequisite for hypnosis. You can be in a hypnotic state with your eyes open. For example, when you “zone out” while driving, your eyes remain open, yet you are in a trance-like state.

Myth #14: Hypnosis is brainwashing.

Fact: Brainwashing, as defined by the American Heritage Dictionary, involves “intensive, forcible indoctrination, usually political or religious, aimed at destroying a person’s basic convictions and attitudes and replacing them with an alternative set of fixed beliefs,” often through deprivation. Hypnosis is fundamentally different. A hypnotist cannot force someone to act against their will; instead, they empower clients to access a natural, altered state of mind and make positive changes. Hypnosis enhances your control over your body and mind, tapping into a power we all possess. You always retain the ability to choose what to do, say, or think.

Myth #15: Hypnosis is anti-religious.

Fact: Hypnosis has no religious connotations. It is a tool used to alleviate pain, overcome fears, phobias, addictions, and other issues. While a few religious sects have historically objected to hypnosis, most religious groups today, including Roman Catholic, Orthodox, and Protestant Christian churches, as well as Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism, and others, accept its ethical use for helping people. Hypnosis is not tied to any world religion. A professional and ethical hypnotist respects clients’ faith and does not use hypnosis to influence their religious beliefs.

Myth #16: When hypnotized, repressed memories of trauma always emerge.

Fact: Hypnosis can be used to uncover repressed memories, but the hypnotic state does not automatically cause them to surface. Memories will only emerge if the client is ready and if the client or hypnotist intentionally seeks to access them. Clients remain in control and will not confront memories they are not prepared to face.

Myth #17: In hypnosis, will I become deaf or lose my memory?

Fact: The notion that you lose control of your senses or memories during hypnosis is a myth perpetuated by Hollywood to sell movies. When emerging from hypnosis, you will feel rested, refreshed, and relaxed, and you will remember the session in its entirety.

Myth #18: Hypnosis is not an effective modality.

Fact: Hypnosis is highly effective, as demonstrated by a comparison study reported in American Health Magazine: psychoanalysis achieved a 38% recovery rate after 600 sessions, behavior therapy a 72% recovery rate after 22 sessions, and hypnotherapy a 93% recovery rate after 6 sessions.

Conclusion

Now that you understand what hypnosis is not, consider exploring it first hand. Try a guided hypnosis recording to experience its benefits. Click here to listen.

The Biology of Belief!

by | Oct 8, 2015 | Blog

My clinical Hypnotherapy practice is based on these principles, Epigenetic’s. That your cells perceive your environment thus producing your disorders. Disease is caused by that perception! Change your beliefs, change your health!